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Where are the black guys that are into Mexican-looking Asianish guys? He said he only ever got hit on by older white men who seemed to fetishize Asians. With this urgency to define their own experiences and the beginning of the demise of code-switchinggay Asian-American men are asking questions despite such mixed signals—or perhaps because of them: What does being more American really mean?

What is Asian enough? That is a relief to Joey Wasserman, 35, a Hong Kong adoptee raised by Jewish parents who owned a gay bar in Philadelphia. I'm half Asian though, and look Mexican. Navigating such territory as a queer man is awkward.

I spent a long time not wanting to be me, not worthy of attention or love or desire.

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And, above all, what comes next? Riel knows it. One hookup, he said, lost his erection when he learned Riel is Asian. And how can queerness reconcile its “no Asians” habit?. The most Asian thing about me is my love of Chinese food and dumplings.

Sort of. Portland is the whitest big city in America. Maybe my father was in the U. And that would be great, better than being Asian—to be mixed, to somehow have a claim to America, actual roots here. Racist tropes are being destabilizedbut the question of identity remains murky.

That science recirculated among the gay community this year as new light was shed on Asian-American identity amid a national spree of anti-AAPI violence. Gay Asian-American men are asking questions of identity: What does being American mean?

Reply reply Zero_Inumaki • Hi lol 😆 Reply reply More replies Complex-Spread •. Lou Miller, 44, a doctor in Brooklyn and a Korean adoptee who was raised by Jewish parents in Philadelphia, grew up wanting to be anything but Asian. Like many Asian-American men, Miller was disappointed by gay bars and the bigotry he eventually found in those self-ascribed temples of acceptance.

They must not accept you. Every night he goes to gay bars in Portland, Oregon, Justin Riel, a year-old Filipino immigrant who works as a data manager for local courts, gets hit on by white men. What is Asian enough? That hit me.

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They must hate you. From dating profiles that request “No Asians” to racist comments in night clubs, the gay community doesn’t feel inclusive for many Asian American men. The only other guys who are ever into me are Asians and Latinos (both of which I am super into, but I want some variety in my life!).